Red Flag! Damn, Blinded By Love – Lovergirl!

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1) She thinks I’m unreliable at times
2) She questions my judgment about things where our opinions differ
3) She thinks I’m dishonest on occasion
4) Sometimes I need to be told something a few times before it sinks in
5) I haven’t figured out a good balance between seeming overbearing and making her feel loved, which sometimes makes her feel unimportant
6) I’m self-centered, and she wonders where her priority is in my life
7) She’s worried I’ll get complacent about her, and about letting her know how important she is to me
8) I don’t prioritize things the same way she feels she would in the same situation
9) I don’t tell her everything that’s bothering me, so she doesn’t understand why I might act the way I do
10) When I do something for her, it’s not always done in the manner she may expect

– Kevin

Lovergirl Responds

Here are my answers to your email. These are good discussion points for us to have tomorrow. I am very open to that.

1) She thinks I’m unreliable at times – correct, accountability is extremely important to me.
2) She questions my judgment about things where our opinions differ – not true!
3) She thinks I’m dishonest on occasion – true. I believe you use manipulative tactics sometimes instead of just saying what you want, which you have admitted that you have done.
4) Sometimes I need to be told something a few times before it sinks in – not true! I find you to be quite intuitive and very smart. I feel you choose what is important and worth remembering. Common with all humans.
5) I haven’t figured out a good balance between seeming overbearing and making her feel loved, which sometimes makes her feel unimportant. not true! I believe you stay in your head too much and that you are unwilling to be your true self because you believe that I might leave you.
6) I’m self-centered, and she wonders where her priority is in my life. partially true! I find you very self-centered with all things in your life. But that is because of the game you are playing with yourself. It is extremely obvious…
7) She’s worried I’ll get complacent about her, and about letting her know how important she is to me – very true! I see that in the way you live, whether you feel that it was justifiable or not. I do not see complacency as a good thing in my life.
8) I don’t prioritize things the same way she feels she would in the same situation – very true! My prioritization are: God/Family/then all else, with some exceptions on minor occasions.
9) I don’t tell her everything that’s bothering me, so she doesn’t understand why I might act the way I do – partially true! I feel that you use the reasons you do that as an excuse to not share. But for me in relationship it is like lying/cheating.
10) When I do something for her, it’s not always done in the manner she may expect – not true! I expect when something is done for me that it is not thrown back up in my face or always brought up as like proof of your doing something for me.

Talk to you soon, Lovergirl!

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