I read this really profound comment by someone recovering from a break-up with a narcissist. I could not agree more. It was how I was able to move on. While I had a different expectation for duration of our relationship. Things did not go as I had hoped. I realized that they never would have. Especially when you are in a relationship with a narcissist person.
It happens to all of us. You’re ok, just start over. You don’t have to be strong, you just have to be brave. Keep this lesson in mind for the next time.
Never get too Hungry
It will help you stay healthy in your head so you feel less and less like breaking the NC rule. Heartbreak comes from shattered expectations and conformation that what we suspected all along was the truth. You feel it now. You can’t deny the truth now.
It’s not fair
You were tricked
You were suckered
You were wounded, and worse –
You will never get justice
You will never get a real apology
It’s the hardest part of all of this pain. Acceptance isn’t easy. Don’t kick yourself over losing your cool. Just pick yourself up, brush yourself off and try again. Fake it till you make it.
The opposite of Love is not Hate. It’s Indifference.
Some day you will know what I mean. In the meantime, find a distraction when you think you feel a relapse coming on. Trust me, the drama isn’t worth the fix.