When you truly love someone, you don’t judge them by their past. You accept it and leave it there.
That really sounds very easy until you are faced with something from the person you love that is so outside your realm of thinking that you are unable to comprehend it.
Most recently I was faced with that and I could not handle it and I walked away. Did that mean I did not love him, or that I was afraid to love him instead in spite of his past?
Should I have compromised my beliefs for the dream that the two of us were planning to build together? I did not dare tell anyone because no one else would understand why I stayed.
Is that love?
I accepted the fact that he shared those things with me and he trusted me enough to open up so deeply. That is something that I realized and appreciated after i hit him below the belt and throwing those things back in his face. That is the point of no return, unrecoverable.
Should I have seek to understand the meaning behind his actions? Because it is said that every relationship in order to be successful require: compromise, as well as communication.
But does it apply in every situation?
It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex with someone. Use the words I love you without regard. People do it all the time and then walk away just because…. but to have someone trust you enough to open their hearts and share their soul with you, that includes; their fears, future plans. Their hopes and dreams, being completely naked with you in that regard.
That’s love! That’s trust!
A relationship where you can act like lovers and best friends at the same time.
Is that possible?
In this case, I felt as if I crumbled his trust like it was a piece of paper. I can try to smooth things out, but that trust level will never be the same again.
So what do I do?
Do I stand up and fight for him and allow him to see that I am the woman he’s always saw me as? Or do I sit down so he can go in search of what I wasn’t?
Sometimes life is about taking risks… risking it all for the one you love. But know that it two comes with consequences and I have to be ready for them.
The best thing in life is to find someone who knows all your flaws, the mistakes that you’ve make and what your weaknesses are without exploit and still think their man is completely amazing and he you.
He often said to me that while he doesn’t have a lot, what he does have is time. He can give me that unconditionally. I did not get it at that time, but I understand what that means now. That is a priceless gift, and I realize how priceless.