I dated a man that was always about the immediate gratification. While I understand that men are physical and sexual creatures. They should respect women enough to make them feel special while in their company oppose to objectifying them. A gentleman always chooses the option to LEARN to control his penis and redirect that energy to other occupations in life that will bring him long term happiness over short term orgasmic gratification. Not all desires are good for us in life. There are people who are shallow thinkers, and people who choose to look deeper. If a person chooses to stay shallow and go for immediate gratification, he will pay a price in his life of shallow, less fulfilling relationships.
We have the right to choose that or not, the choice is ours. While this lesson of being with someone like that was a very painful one for me. It opened my eyes and allowed me to see and meet a really great guy. He’s tall, good-looking, funny and successful. However, I find myself distracted. I find that I do not want to put in the work of moving on to a different potentially better relationship. Why? Why is that?
It is time for me to move on and to understand this powerful challenge men have that I as a women generally don’ t have. I learned that men are just that… primal creatures that have a strong desire to look and have sex or should I say FUCK other woman. EVERYDAY!, Every waking moment of the day!
But good men know how to control that urge and make their women feel respected and desired. So in learning this lesson, I no longer see what happened between my ex and I as an act of disrespect I have learned and understand that primal desire within a man! It is my job to quell that desire of the beast and work diligently to keep his focus on me.
I am not insecure any longer, and honestly I never was until a few months ago. I am back to my confident self. I don’t know if having this information would have benefit me in my most recent break-up. No idea, but the past is just that… the past. I accept the lesson for what it is.